4/10/08. My friend Benny recently told me: "Thank God for the institution of marriage --- otherwise we'd be fighting with strangers." Benny was born on 10/10/10 --- lives alone, has many interests, loves sports, good food, cherishes his family and friends, and has the best sense of humor of any human being I know (scroll to page 10 on link). In this article I refer to George Vaillant. Dr. Vaillant is a Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard, and spent his life charting adult development. His many books include The Natural History of Alcoholism, and Aging Well.